The Burning Light of Two Stars
A Mother-Daughter Story
A Valuable Resource for Support Groups and Clients
How The Burning Light of Two Stars Can Benefit Your Clients
“Laura’s book is a stunning achievement. I am certain The Burning Light of Two Stars will be used as a discussion vehicle with seniors, in groups dealing with mother-daughter issues, family estrangement, compassionate choices, Alzheimer’s disease, and death with dignity, with a facilitator guiding discussion afterwards. Laura Davis has made a major contribution to the literature of aging, death, and dying.”
—Etiel Herring, Santa Cruz, California
Many people will recognize their own struggles, realities, and challenges reflected in Laura’s riveting story. Lead your support or therapy group towards enriching and transformative conversation and insight through a discussion of The Burning Light of Two Stars.
Benefits of Bibliotherapy
It’s well-established that healing can come through reading, discussing, and writing. Counseling.org notes that “Bibliotherapy is effective in promoting problem solving, increasing compassion, developing empathetic understanding and enhancing self-awareness.”
And Sandra Marinella, MA, MEd, author and award-winning educator, shares that bibliotherapy “can help us find our way through psychological, emotional, and social problems.”
- Helps individuals develop and heal through books, storytelling, and writing
- Allows us to see the universality of human experience and emotion, lessens isolation, and makes people feel less alone
- Supports and encourages compassion, self-awareness, and interaction
- Provides a framework and channel for discussing a topic or issue
- Improves the depth of a support group’s communication and feedback
Why This Book? Why Laura Davis?
You may be familiar with Laura Davis’ six previous bestselling books, including The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Sexual Abuse, which has sold more than a million copies and been translated into 11 languages.
For more than thirty years, The Courage to Heal and The Courage to Heal Workbook have been employed by therapists and in support groups as a powerful, inspiring form of bibliotherapy for survivors of sexual abuse.
One survivor wrote to Laura that “dealing with feelings that have been hidden, suppressed, and unacknowledged for fifty years is an awesome task, and your book is helping to make the process bearable and possible.”
Her 2021 memoir, The Burning Light of Two Stars powerfully and poignantly explores healing from trauma over the course of a lifetime, what it takes to resolve estranged and damaged relationships, as well as the honest unvarnished reality of caregiving, Alzheimer’s disease, grief, and end-of-life choices.
Laura has spoken in the media extensively about these topics. You can find recordings and videos of her appearances here.
Here’s What People are Saying About The Burning Light of Two Stars:
“Caregiving an elderly parent, especially against the backdrop of a difficult shared past, can be a bruising spiritual ordeal. We who must travel this territory don’t need any more sentimental narratives about it. What we do need is the healing medicine of truth-telling, and Laura Davis brilliantly and generously gives it to us.”
—Katy Butler, bestselling author of Knocking on Heaven’s Door and The Art of Dying Well
“A richly woven narrative that goes far beyond personal revelation, offering inspiration to others who are struggling with the supremely complicated landscape of caregiving for parents near the end of life. This is not by any stretch of the imagination a “feel-good” saga; it is a beautifully written story of excruciating betrayals and enduring damage alongside hard-won compassion and nuanced acceptance.”
—Elizabeth Rosner, Los Angeles Review of Books
“In this riveting memoir, Laura grapples with questions that many of us struggle with: ‘How do family members stay in relationship when they can’t agree on critical elements of their collective past?’ ‘How do families overcome past hurts when they need to show up for each other in their hour of need?’ And ‘Is it possible to risk loving someone you desperately want to be able to love, but who has repeatedly betrayed you?’ As a palliative care doctor, The Burning Light of Two Stars put me in touch with what the caregiver experience is really like. I enthusiastically recommend this book.”
—Shoshana Helman, MD, Hospice and Palliative Medicine, Redwood City, California
“I believe any woman will find value, wisdom, and relief in The Burning Light of Two Stars, but it is especially poignant for mothers and daughters who have struggled, are estranged, and/or are navigating reconciliation. Thankfully, more and more of us are learning that in revealing and speaking the truth, healing, even when it's messy and emotional, can take place.”
—Karen C.L. Anderson, master-certified life coach and author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters
About Laura Davis
Laura Davis is the author of seven non-fiction books, including The Courage to Heal, Becoming the Parent You Want to Be and I Thought We'd Never Speak Again. Her groundbreaking books have been translated into 11 languages and sold more than 1.8 million copies. In addition to writing books that inspire and change people's lives, the work of Laura's heart is to teach. For more than twenty years, at locations around the world, she's helped her students find their voices, tell their stories, and hone their craft as writers. Laura loves creating supportive, intimate writing communities online, in person, and internationally.
Listen to a Sample of Laura Reading Her Audiobook
More Praise for The Burning Light of Two Stars
"Laura Davis has written a brilliant memoir. The Burning Light of Two Stars is destined to become as much a classic as The Courage to Heal, her groundbreaking book on healing from sexual abuse. The Burning Light of Two Stars, written more than thirty years later, explores Laura's attempts to reconcile with her mother, who continued to deny that Laura had been sexually abused. Here, a mature writer looks back on the most primal and pivotal relationship in her life. Laura handles the complex emotions and interactions of mother and daughter with deep insight, clarity and compassion. Her storytelling is compelling, poignant and heartfelt. At times gut-wrenching, at other times hilarious, The Burning Light of Two Stars is a 'must read.'"
—Adrienne Drake MD, Mission Viejo, California
"I was completely captivated by this story. It was one of those books you start reading and feel as if you've stumbled on a treasure. Every night I found it hard to put down. I was hungry to always read more, to turn each page, and consume each paragraph. The story is brilliant. There is intrigue, emotion, life lessons, and a deep connection to real family life and relationships. I highly recommend this book to anyone wanting a good read-but especially to those living with family estrangement now or in the past."
—Yasmin Kerkez, Founder of Moving Beyond Family Struggles
""I've read nonstop since I woke up, almost 100 pages already. It's riveting and exquisitely crafted. If I didn't have things I had to do today, I'd finish it in one sitting."
—Jennifer Meyer, Eugene, Oregon
“I first learned of Laura’s work when she published The Courage to Heal more than thirty years ago. As a young therapist, it was a roadmap for treating so many of my clients. Now, three decades later, I found her memoir to be another account of courage because of Laura’s willingness and determination and kindness and ability to look at her own blind spots. The Burning Light of Two Stars has us go deep, giving us the gift, the reminder of just how complex we humans really are. At first, I cringed at the terrible behavior of Laura’s mother, Temme, but as the book unfolded, I grew to understand and love her. Isn’t this the experience we all long for, especially these days? What a profound relief it is when we finally bridge the seemingly insurmountable divide of the human heart. On top of all of that, The Burning Light of Two Stars is beautifully written. I just love reading a book in which I want to pluck sentences out and keep them—each word a gem, placed just so.”
"Laura's story is important because it captures, with authenticity and supreme honesty, the vexed, complicated and tender mother-daughter bonds and because it doesn't hold back the daughter's ambiguity, resentments, wavering, love-hate sentiments. The sincerity through which the story is conveyed took my breath away."
—Rosa-Linda Fregoso, Professor Emerita of Latin American and Latino Studies, University of California, Santa Cruz and co-editor of Terrorizing Women: Feminicide in the Américas
"I quickly ran out of superlatives for The Burning Light of Two Stars because so many scenes grabbed me. From the first page, I was fully engaged in Laura's world and didn't want to put the book down. It was as if she was speaking my story, her mother a mirror of my own. I am certain this wise exploration of mother-daughter dynamics over a lifetime will resonate broadly. As I pored over its pages, I didn't want this beautiful, compelling story to end. And for me, it hasn't: Laura's memoir and all of her characters have stayed with me to this day."
—Kay Taylor, author of Soul Path Way
"In a culture that produces chasms of disconnection in our most tender relationships, and sanitizes the rawness of life, The Burning Light of Two Stars takes the reader on a journey that reconnects and rescues the beauty of life's messiest realities. It is a story of resistance and rebirth, one that provides myriad lessons on what it takes to transcend deep wounds. Laura Davis has written a brilliant, compelling book that I just couldn't put down. I read all night, and I do not give up sleep easily. The Burning Light of Two Stars fed my soul."
—Eileene Tejada, Ph.D. Professor of English and Anthropology at Napa Valley College
"This was one of the bravest books I have ever read. Laura Davis brings you directly into the heart of her crucible, again and again with power and vulnerability and a tenderness that is utterly disarming. There were times that the mirror being held up was almost too great to bear, but I simply could not stop reading and found that my heart kept opening, breaking and then piecing itself back together. This book is pure revelation."
—Jill Bacharach, MA, MSW, Activist, Writer
"In this raw, gripping, inspiring memoir, Laura Davis recounts how, piece by piece, she let her mother back into her life after betrayal and a very public estrangement, and then, piece by piece, lost her again to dementia. Reading this book changed my heart and inspired me to pick up the phone and call my mother for the first time in 18 years."
—Hollye Dexter, author of Fire Season and co-editor of The Shame Prom
“This is a book about real human conditions and connections, not at all about politics, yet for me, as I finished the book, my thoughts went to the broken connections so many today in our country are living with—so much anger and polarization such profound and intractable disagreements that have led to estrangements even from family and previously dear friends. Perhaps this book can teach us about holding on to our precious and deep human connections in spite of irreconcilable disagreements and give us hope that it might be possible, if we are willing and determined, to work toward that end.”
—Nancy J Swartz
"I found The Burning Light of Two Stars to be riveting, an effortless read. I'm in two book groups, and at any given time I am reading/listening to two or three books concurrently. I've put them all down for this one. It's just that good."
—Olivia Bethea, Atlanta, Georgia
"A love letter to a mother whose deep flaws could not drown out her much deeper love."
—Wentzel Lombard, Reedsy Discovery
"I just finished this remarkable book today. My experience reading The Burning Light of Two Stars was profound. I found the story compelling. The writing superb. I was drawn into Laura's life story in a deeply personal way. I could not put The Burning Light of Two Stars down except to stop often and think about my own mother. I can honestly say I have not experienced such deep thinking about my relationship with my mother in a long time, if ever."
—Rosilyn Nesler, Oceanside, California
"The Burning Light of Two Stars is more than just a mother-daughter story. Laura skillfully addresses crucial human questions: 'Who am I?' 'Am I my worst moments?' 'Am I my best moments?' 'How do I move through hard places to come into a rich, full, wholehearted life?' I loved immersing myself in her journey and had a hard time saying goodbye to the characters when I reached the final page. I'd definitely recommend The Burning Light of Two Stars to anyone grappling with estranged relationships, aging parents or dementia, and to anyone who has wrestled with love and frustration in a family-which is all of us. It was truly a joy to read this book."
—Melissa Thomson, Unitarian Universalist Minister and Palliative Care Chaplain, Los Altos, California
"This chronicle of estrangement and reconciliation documenting a daughter’s slow loss of her mother to dementia and death, is really a testament to living and forgiveness. Overcoming a past fraught with misunderstandings and hostilities takes hard work—hard emotional and soul work. Davis masterfully documents this journey while giving the reader a visceral sense of the brevity of time we have in which to let compassion take root. This is a stunning book that shows how, once begun, that rootedness can be nurtured, deepened, and sustained."
—Sue William Silverman, author, How to Survive Death and Other Inconveniences
"When Laura Davis and Ellen Bass published The Courage to Heal, it emboldened a generation of survivors of incest and sexual abuse, likely contributing to the courageous voices for many who are part of today's MeToo and TimesUp movements. In The Burning Light of Two Stars, Davis allows us to know the person behind those pages, and the story behind that story. Nuanced, raw, and candid, this memoir does not designate white hat/black hat characters. Instead, it provides a topographical map through the complex landscape of the mother/daughter relationship at the heart of the story, with characters both noble and deeply flawed on both sides of the equation. This masterful heart-filling book is deeply moving and wise."
—Betsy Graziani Fasbinder, therapist and author of Filling Her Shoes and Fire and Water
"For a community trying to grasp the real and heart-wrenching truth of sexual violence, The Burning Light of Two Stars lays bare the life-altering and far-reaching impact of incest, sexual abuse and assault. It strips down to the bone the deep and aching damage trauma does not only to the individual but the family as a whole. For survivors, Laura Davis demonstrates that with unending hard work and commitment one can redefine and reconcile a relationship."
—Crystal Emerick, Founder of Brave Space
"I've never experienced a book like this before. I was fully engrossed in every scene as if I was living it. I just couldn't put it down. I can't find words for how powerfully The Burning Light of Two Stars affected me. I'm a different person after having read it. My heart is full. Laura Davis addresses the complexity of family relationships like nothing I've ever read before."
—Toni Taylor, retired nurse
"I finished The Burning Light of Two Stars in a bed of tears. What an eloquent and compelling story."
—Abby Stamelman Hocky, Executive Director, Interfaith Philadelphia
“In Laura Davis’ much anticipated new memoir, The Burning Light of Two Stars, we meet two flawed and magnificent women, initially and conveniently well-separated between east and west coasts, then thrust into the same small city as Davis’ mother invites herself three thousand miles to die in proximity to the daughter she has long berated. So interrupts Davis’ then “well ordered life.” Davis gnaws at the bone of her maternal discontents, as we watch her do the hard and honest work toward an intimate reconciliation. ‘I’d become who I was in opposition to her,’ Davis writes. ‘Who would I become without her?’ We find out as Davis pulls us inside where she invites, anticipates, backtracks, and hopes something new will bloom. As in the best memoirs, I learned, I grew, I questioned, I contemplated, I changed. Buy this book because it’s Laura Davis and she’s already changed our world once with The Courage to Heal but read it to witness and absorb a guide to finding peace with one challenging, complicated person with whom you long to reconcile. Vividly, honestly, and vulnerably written. I couldn’t put it down. A tour de force!”
—Gretchen Cherington, author of Poetic License, A Memoir
“A heartwarming love story of resilience, reconciliation, and healing.”
—Elissa Altman, Author of Motherland: A Memoir of Love, Loathing, and Longing
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"You’ll find yourself deeply engrossed, reading hungrily until the very last page."
—Debbie Owen, RN CHPN, Los Angeles, California